I recently got in a heated discussion with my father over timelines and commitments for a project we are working on together. After the call, I realized that I was treating him like I like to be treated, but not like he wanted to be treated. I hadn’t handled things well.
What I’ve learned (sometimes the hard way) is that great leadership is being able to recognize and respect each persons individuality and serving them in ways in which they best respond.
After an apology to my dad, I used this as stimulant for a new exercise:
Think about all the people whom you work with and lead. Write out how you can best be helpful to them on their terms. Don’t assume that the way you want to be treated is the way that they do.
I recommend taking this step and feel that learning this lesson is the next major milestone for me in becoming a better leader. What about you? Do you agree? I’d love to hear your thoughts and opinions on leadership tactics.
P.s. My wife says this works great in marriage too